Grief can be a heavy burden to carry, and sometimes, finding a way to process those emotions can be difficult. As we step into the new year, you might find it comforting to write a letter to a loved one who has passed. If you feel unsure about how to approach this practice, here are some reasons why and tips that may be useful to you.
Why Write to a Deceased Loved One?
It Keeps the Connection Alive
Losing a loved one can make you feel like the connection you both had is gone forever. However, writing them letters gives you an opportunity to keep the relationship alive in your heart.
It allows you to put your thoughts into words and makes you feel like you’re still talking to them, even when they can’t respond.
Full Expression of Your Feelings Without Judgement
After the death of a loved one, you may find yourself going through a rollercoaster of emotions. You may feel sadness, anger, confusion, and sometimes even guilt.
Writing a letter allows you to fully express your feelings with no rules, expectation or judgment.
Writing is a Therapeutic Tool
Writing has long been recognized as a therapeutic tool.
It can help you process emotions, organize your thoughts, and bring clarity. This simple act can become a way to reflect, process, and honor your loved one every year.
Useful Tips to Guide Your Writing
Start the letter as though you’re speaking directly to them. This helps make the process feel more intimate and personal.
Recall a favourite memory, tell them things you wish you’d told them, apologize if you need to or bring them up to speed on events they’ve missed the last year.
Close the letter with warmth and love. Once the letter is written, you may keep it in a safe place, read it aloud, burn it or release it into water or wind – anything that works for you.