Writing and Delivering a Eulogy

A eulogy is a speech given at a funeral or memorial service that celebrates the life of the person who has died. It is an opportunity to remember who they were and the impact they had on others.

It can be delivered by a family member, close friend, colleague, or spiritual leader.

How To Write a Meaningful Eulogy

Start by introducing yourself and explaining your relationship to the person. Thank those who have gathered to remember them.

Talk about the moments that best describe their life. You might include their impact on family, friends and neighbours. Talk about their passions, interests, achievements and funny moments.

Close your eulogy with a message of gratitude for having known them. Many families find comfort in closing with quotes to guide anyone through their grieving journey.

Tips for Delivering a Eulogy

Most eulogies last between five and ten minutes. Keeping your speech short allows you to share meaningful memories without losing your audience’s attention.

Feeling nervous is completely natural. Even experienced speakers can find funerals emotionally difficult.

You may want to write your speech down and bring a printed copy. Read slowly and pause when needed. Ask someone to step in if you feel unable to continue.

Remember, everyone present understands the emotions of the day. They are most likely listening with compassion, not judgement.

Do You Have to Give a Eulogy?

No you do not have to. If speaking feels too difficult, there are other options. You may ask another family member of a trusted friend to read your words on your behalf. You can also choose to share a written tribute in the funeral service programme instead.

The important thing is that the person’s life is remembered in a way that feels right for you and your family.

What should you avoid in a eulogy?

Avoid stories that may embarrass the family or distract from the purpose of honouring the person’s life. If you mention difficult times, do so with care and sensitivity.

Is It Okay to Use humour?

Yes. Gentle humour can bring comfort. A warm, genuine story often reminds people of happier times.