Funeral Photography – A Gentle Guide for Families

Would it be okay to have someone take a few photos during a funeral service? If it feels right for your family, the answer is unequivocally yes.

We understand the hesitation. You may worry a camera could disturb the sanctity of the day. Yet we’ve also witnessed the comfort families find years later when those photos resurface. A single image — grandchildren standing together, a flag folded with military precision, cousins holding one another — often becomes one of the most treasured possessions a family owns.

How to Keep It Respectful

The key is gentleness and preparation. To ensure the day remains focused on remembrance:

Choose One Photographer
Designate one person, not several people holding up phones. Insist on silent mode and absolutely no flash. Ask the photographer to dress in muted colors and remain near the back or along the walls.

Setting Your Boundaries
Before the service, decide what feels appropriate. Some families welcome photos of the casket; others prefer images of loved ones’ faces or floral arrangements only.

Simple Options for Every Family

Designate a Helper
Ask a trusted niece or nephew to take a few thoughtful photos on their phone.

Use a Sign
A small sign can quietly note that photos are being taken for a private family keepsake.

Plan with the Photographer
Invite the photographer to arrive early so we can show them the most discreet locations.

What Families Treasure Later

The photos that matter most aren’t posed portraits. They are the unnoticed moments — a silent embrace, a hand held tightly — love made visible when words fail.

If you’re still unsure, that’s completely normal. Some families choose photos; others choose none. Both decisions are perfect.

If you’d like to talk through what photography could look like — or if you simply need reassurance that phones will remain in pockets — please call or stop by anytime. We’re here to listen and to help, exactly as you need.