Talking about death is a challenging and daunting task, but it is an important conversation to have. Choose a time when they aren’t distracted.
It is almost a taboo in our society to talk about death. Many people have trouble acknowledging that their loved ones will not be with them forever.
However, it is important to talk about funeral wishes because it alleviates stress and anxiety when a death eventually occurs.
Here are some practical steps to take when embarking on this quite unpleasant task.
Set a Time and Place
Life is unpredictable and there is no right time to have an end-of-life planning conversation.
You can have it in your home or any other space where you feel relaxed and comfortable.
Know The Approach With Which To Start The Conversation
You know your family better than anyone else. They may be particularly resistant to the topic as a whole.
In this case, you should employ an indirect approach. Directly asking them their wishes or relaying the same may seem to them as signs of abandonment on your part.
Be Clear And Specific About Your Funeral Wishes
You should be specific and detailed. Talk about any financial support you have in place, your will and estate.
Let them know where you’d like to do the ceremony, what should be done with your remains, preferences when it comes to mementos and service elements.
Take Their Concerns Into Account
While making decisions, take the needs and feelings of your loved ones into consideration.
Prepare for an emotional response from them. Tears will be shed and there might be some tension.
Hand Over Important Documents
Make your loved ones aware if you have savings, a funeral plan or some other financial protection in place. Hand over the details of a banker or insurer if necessary.
At the end of the day, all the issues should have been addressed and all confusion cleared up.